When To Speak

Connie Michaelis, Marketing Consultant, The Piper Assisted Living and Memory Support

Have you noticed that after a loved one passes on, we no longer think about their weaknesses, but focus on their virtues? My sisters and I were making that observation about our mom.  In the time since her passing we are continually “rediscovering” the legacy of the good virtues she left us.  We’ve all but forgotten the shortcomings we observed while she was alive.  Like Proverbs 31 says: “Her children will arise and call her blessed.”  Our memories seem to be a result of “post mortem amnesia,” but that is one of the blessings of time.  Age brings a perspective that is gained in no other way.  It takes time to make plenty of mistakes of your own to know the importance of forgiving others.  Generosity in our own heart allows us to have selective memory for others.  Dutchman, Paul Boese said, “Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future.”

Part of the joy of growing old, is gaining wisdom.  As I reflect on my own life, it might have been better to have my mouth zipped shut for the first half and then loosened only on occasion to quote a ‘wise old woman’ for the second half.  Our culture is so youth oriented that if it is old, it is obsolete and if it is new, it is the latest and greatest.  I believe that perfected wisdom comes with age.  I love working with all these wise people at The Piper.  This is a repository of life experience, wisdom and forgiveness.  Mahatma Gandhi says, “The weak cannot forgive.  Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”  Join us in an environment where we respect the wisdom of age and practice “selective memories” that enlarge the future!  Give us a call at The Piper 913.400.7006 and experience the difference.